I started to post about how some people treat you differently when something bad happens to you. Then I realized that has more to do with the person than it does with me. When bad things happen, some people get scared that it might be catching and try to stay away from it. Some people think, "I just don't know what to say" and just avoid contact for a while until the whole matter goes away.
 
It's hard because I know many people out there who go through infertility issues start to pull away or start to be resentful of pregnant women and babies. It can be very difficult, especially when one is working through the grieving process. However, I have not become that person, I promise. A big reason why is because we already grieved and processed our infertility and opened our hearts to adoption. I am excited and proud and joyful about our adoption and do not resent other people's paths.

Perhaps some people mis-took my writing about being mad to mean I was mad at other people. To be honest, I was angry at God. But He is pretty strong and He can take it. After all, I'm a person and get frustrated. It is like a teenage girl that gets mad at her parents for not letting her go to a party. They made the right call and she will appreciate it when she is older, but today she is furious at the "injustice". But He and I are still close so we are good.

I know this will all work out for the best, I honestly do. And I haven't changed my personality in significant ways, so do not be afraid of spending time with me or talking to me. You can even let me hold your babies and talk to me about frustration with swollen pregnancy ankles. It's cool...as long as I get to complain about paperwork and wait times. After all, it is only fair!

As far as what to say, "I'm sorry" is still appropriate. Or "Hang in there" or "We're thinking about/ praying for you guys" Stuff like that is awesome. You can throw in a hug if you have one. But after that, it is ok to be friends like usual.